How to Recognize an Unhealthy Relationship

Red Flags

Does your partner...

  • Get jealous easily or accuse you of having an affair?

  • Have abuse in family history?

  • Throw objects at you or destroy your property?

  • Make you account for every moment you are away?

  • Restrain you?

  • Ridicule you?

  • Threaten to hurt you, your children or your pets?

  • Manipulate you with lies or promises?

  • Threaten to or force you to have sex?

  • Make you feel you don’t have the right to say “no” or disagree?

  • Isolate you from family, friends, work?

  • Make all the decisions in the home for you?

  • Have previous contact with the justice system?

  • Control all the money?

  • Have weapons?

  • Experience behavior change with drugs/alcohol?

Green Flags

Does your partner...

  • View you as an equal?
  • Respect you and treat you fairly?
  • Make you feel safe (emotional & physically)?
  • Listen to you?
  • Discuss disagreements peacefully?
  • Allow the relationship to go at your pace?
  • Act as a positive role model for your children?
  • Value your opinions?
  • Communicate openly & honestly?
  • Support your goals in life?
  • Make family and money decisions together with you?
  • Compromise?
  • Have a positive image of family?
  • Make your friends and family feel comfortable?